Ten Things

So I was reading cosmopolitan.. and there was this article about that new blonde guy with the big mouth from Glee on what are ten things he thinks all girls should know and understand about guys. Well, I was thoroughly dissatisfied with his list since a lot of things were stuff that applies to bimbos and not actual women... and also because he was being a sexist ass. But.. it inspired to make my own list... of ten things I think men should know and understand about SOME women, not all of them would agree... but mainly this derives from my personal feelings.

1. Just because we tell you nothing is wrong and tonight isn't the night to talk about it or any other excuse... doesn't mean you should stop prying. We want to feel like you're fighting for us and that you're completely interested and genuinely care. So we test you. We push you annoyingly far and you're supposed to still be there asking what can I do to make it better? That's how we want it to work.

2. Don't compliment another girl without complimenting us first. At prom, my date told my friend she looked great but never told me that I did. Yeah, that stings. However if it's complimenting some celebrity chick on tv, that's fine... we agree. But don't compliment some girl right in front of us without making it known that we're great, too. It makes us feel threatened, and nobody likes feeling inadequate.

3. We get that you don't have to put a "label" on things, but we want to. Why? Well why don't you want to put a label on it? Guys say oh we've got a good thing going, lets not ruin it, it's just a tag not what we have. Well if the label is so insignificant, why do you care if we use it? Schmer. This one ties into number 4.

4. Facebook official doesn't make the relationship official, but not agreeing to be recognized as a couple on a major social networking site with no valid reason gives us cause for concern. Yeah, we get that it's just facebook, but if it's not a big deal why aren't you comfortable being listed as together? Yes, we trust you. But that doesn't mean we understand why you're against it.

5. We pry into your emotions and life because we want to understand you. To us it's not asking for too much to know how you feel.. It's asking to know you and see where you are coming from when you say and do certain things.

6. We totally want sex just as bad as you do... but we like the kissing, too. And the foreplay. So why rush straight to the deed when there is other fun to be had?

7. Don't assume if we are moody that it's our "time." Seriously. This has happened to me before and I was moody because I found out he was texting another girl he loved her... Not because it was my "time." When there is a problem, you should just be direct and ask. Don't think you know everything going on in our heads.

8. We like some creativity. When it comes to gifts, we'd rather have something thoughtful than expensive. Oh and little surprises? Those are fantastic! Little gifts or displays of love make us feel special, wanted, and swept off our feet. It's nice to get back a little of what you give.

9. It's great to try and befriend our family. Just because we may hate brother Bob or our mother at the moment doesn't mean that you shouldn't say hi to them when addressed. You're a separate person, you have separate battles.

10. And finally, don't toss around the three important words that cohesively make a very important sentence. You know the one. I love you. Do not say these words without meaning them. If you don't mean them and say them, you end up hurting us. Bad.